friends..they are individuals who stay close to us besides family. Therefore,the selection of friend is a must.Why??? These people are going to shape us with Islamic character and most of all, they can guide us into His heaven. It is not that i'm saying we should neglect or stay apart from bad friends, but at least we have idea how to take precaution on this matter as Abu Musa narrated that Prophet said :
“The example of a good companion and a bad one is that of a person carrying musk and another blowing a pair of bellows. The one who is carrying musk will either give you some perfume as a present, or you will buy some from him, or you will get a good smell from him; but the one who is blowing a pair of bellows will either burn your clothes or you will get a bad smell from him.” [Bukhari and Muslim.]
5 ways in shaping friendship based on an advice from al-Qamah (a companion of the Prophet) to his son:
Firstly, choose friends who like to protect his friend, he is like our decoration and if we are in lack of maintenance or money, he will fulfill our need.
Second, choose a friend who, when you are reaching out your hands or want to help, he likes to receive with the feel of overwhelmed, if they see the benefit or goodness
available on you, he likes to count(say it)
Third, choose a friend who, when you provide good service or your help, they prefer to receive with the feel of overwhelmed and be very useful, and if they know about your bad(aib) they will cover it.
Fourth, choose friends that when you ask for something, then he/she will give,
and if you keep quiet, he started to greet you first and if there is a difficulty and sadness that befall, he likes to help and reduce it and makes you feel joyful
Fifth, the companion that if you said he will appreciate and believe it. If you came out a question he will work hard in finding the answer and if you disagree or dispute with him, he loves to please you
p/s: sorry for crap translation
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